As we grow up, we have more things to do, more responsibilities, more plans, more and more and more..
Unlike we used to, when we were kids, teenagers, everything is about fun! no need to think about bills, career, problems at work (with your colleague, your boss etc), problems with your wife/husband, problem with your plan about (having) kids.. and many more problems!
It's not that I don't want to grow up.. naahh... I love my life just the way it is. But sometimes, you just have thoughts more than usual, thinking about almost everything, and then there you go! stucked!
We do have so many options in life, the phase to choose which one is the best, that.. would make you go nuts. Especially, if you choose the wrong choice.
However, that's the way you took, just be strong, hang in there, you'll find a way.
Optimist!*
*self-hypnotized
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
A new friend in town
In this my 25++ years old, I learned another new thing. I know that some of you perhaps have been having this strong bond with your mom forever.. But for me, raised in different cities and different houses had made my relationship with my mother wasn't as close as any normal girls would have.
I figured out many things mostly by exploring my life, rather than being advised by my mom (and my only parent). I did learn about life from observing her life, watching closely (well, as close as I could) her actions in every situations. We never have that special mother-daughter picnic nor that mother-daughter secrets. We did have several salon visits and shopping events together.
When I was in my preteen years to teen years and finally through college years, friends have always been my number one focus. My friends is 50% of my life. Now, I just realized that a mother is a friend that I have had the longest!! No friend can teach me better to pick the right boyfriend than my mother. I've learned not just from her mistakes but also from her lovely love stories. No friend can predict the hurt a friend can caused than my mom. She always reminds me that friendships will not always last forever, that your best friend can turns into your worst enemy, and sometimes you just have to live a life on your own. No friend can go beyond the sacrifices my mom has gone through to make sure I'm always well fed (yes, I love food!!), I'm highly educated, and I'm living a notable life. Her life experience is her teaching for my sis and I.
These things usually wouldn't hit most young girls' minds, until they start entering the real life bites: Finding a good soul mate, budgeting daily needs, preparing weddings, career changing, going through maternity, raising a child, maintaining a marriage, widowed, divorced, and so on...
A best friend of mine shared to me two of her stories:
I figured out many things mostly by exploring my life, rather than being advised by my mom (and my only parent). I did learn about life from observing her life, watching closely (well, as close as I could) her actions in every situations. We never have that special mother-daughter picnic nor that mother-daughter secrets. We did have several salon visits and shopping events together.
When I was in my preteen years to teen years and finally through college years, friends have always been my number one focus. My friends is 50% of my life. Now, I just realized that a mother is a friend that I have had the longest!! No friend can teach me better to pick the right boyfriend than my mother. I've learned not just from her mistakes but also from her lovely love stories. No friend can predict the hurt a friend can caused than my mom. She always reminds me that friendships will not always last forever, that your best friend can turns into your worst enemy, and sometimes you just have to live a life on your own. No friend can go beyond the sacrifices my mom has gone through to make sure I'm always well fed (yes, I love food!!), I'm highly educated, and I'm living a notable life. Her life experience is her teaching for my sis and I.
These things usually wouldn't hit most young girls' minds, until they start entering the real life bites: Finding a good soul mate, budgeting daily needs, preparing weddings, career changing, going through maternity, raising a child, maintaining a marriage, widowed, divorced, and so on...
A best friend of mine shared to me two of her stories:
- "Oh Jie, my honeymoon was my first sex experience...and it hurts so bad! I called my mom in secret and just started crying. She comforted me and told me that I'm no longer a li'l girl..I'm my husband's wife, etc.. Isn't it ironic? I never shared with my mom the very details of my relationship with my boyfriend back then, but on my honeymoon I CALLED HER." ---> of course e'thing goes well with my bestie & her husband :) they had a beautiful daughter.
- "Giving birth is amazing Jie! But, being a mom is a totally different story yet wonderful experience. Luckily I have my mom to advise me, I'm totally blind to motherhood, scary. You know what Jie? I'm now very close with my mom, closer than we've ever been."
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